Shhh!
Sometimes we need to just get quiet, get past the
how are you?
I am fine
automated conversation.
Sometimes we need to sit, face to face … well, before Covid … sigh.
Ok, sometimes we need to sit, separately, yet heart to heart. We need to move on to the intimate version of the same question …
how are you … really?
One word … just one word changes how one’s heart hears the heart of the one asking the question. That one word says,
I have time.
I have space.
I want to know.
It says,
I care.
We all need to know that someone cares beyond just making the noises, going through the motions. Kind sometimes isn’t enough. Sometimes we need to be kind and to care for others too.
January is one of the dark months and, for some, it can, for some, be a season of being chased by the dark dog. Not a real black dog, but one which can take over more than just a house, it can take over a person’s life.
Just this past week in Canada, there was a mental health awareness campaign called #bellletstalk. People spoke about mental health issues, money was raised. Those are good things to do to show awareness, but there are 364 other days in the year, days when we can make a real difference in the lives of those closest to us.
Here is the thing. Though we all know the heart’s delight when someone shows such care to us, we don’t always show such care to others. We forget, we are in a rush, we have hearts and heads full of our own stuff.
But, what if we were intentional once a day to look into someone’s eyes. I mean, with our masks, eyes are really all that we see. Look into their eyes and say, how are you, really? Maybe with someone at work, someone at school, someone in your household, in your bed. Maybe send a message, a text, an email, a good ol’ fashioned letter, saying, I was thinking of you. How are you, really?
Dive below the surface. Show someone that,
I have time.
I have space.
I want to know.
Ask the question,
how are you … really?
It says,
I care.
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