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“I am so fat.”

“I am ugly.”

“I hate my nose (substitute any other body part)”

“I am so flat.”

These are the “truths” that many, if not all teen girls believe about themselves. Most often these “truths” are not truths, but lies that have grown from a near microscopic-sized seed, planted by someone else, who had had no idea how immense the growth would be.

The growth of that seed results in the decay and destruction of the heart and soul of young and developing young woman. As it’s lies take root in the young lady, it pushes aside and alters the intended growth and development of that young lady. She becomes something that she was never intended to become. She increases in insecurity, she decreases in her understanding of her own abilities and value. She looses her own self in the lie.

Sometimes the far-reaching growth of these lies completely envelopes her heart, and changes the path of her life. Sometimes it hides deep within her, and the cracks it creates in her soul make it difficult for her to live with herself, even though the damage done is not seen by the eyes of anyone around her. Sometimes, it’s damaging overgrowth forces her to look for ways to escape who she thinks she is, and she does things to her body that can damage her and change her life forever.

Teen girls are the masters of comparison. They compare themselves with other girls. They compare themselves with celebrities on the covers of magazines. They compare themselves with girls who have a guys hand to hold.

As I walk the halls of the high school where I work, the church I attend, the malls where I shop, and the house where I live, I see the eyes of the girls who believe the lies. In those eyes I see the insecurities that have taken root from the lies that have been believed … hook, line and sinker.

It breaks my heart to see these broken vessels. Not because they are not beautiful, but because their ability to see and know their own beauty, their own abilities, has been suffocated by the lies.

If I could tell a teen girl anything, it would be that they are a one in a million gift. That the package that they contain, that they are, is of more value than any rare jewel. That, as they live their life as the precious gift that they are created to be, they are empowered to unwrap each layer of their gift, to reveal the purpose, and passion and beauty that only comes from within.

I would tell them : “Fear not for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name; you are mine. I have loved you with an everlasting love…I hold you in the palm of my hands. In my sight you are precious…do not be afraid I am with you.” Says the Lord God. (Isaiah 43:1-4)

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Cross my heart, hope to die, stick a needle in my eye …

Liar, liar pants on fire …

Little ditties from how legal contracts were written in our childhoods, reminds us how very important promises were to us in childhood. I wonder if we made contracts now (as adults) as we did as children, would we fulfill our promises better than we do now?

There are so many promises for us to keep to so many : our spouses, out kids, our workplace, our banks, our loan companies, our parents, our friends, and even our resolutions (it’s the middle of January, so those promises may have been broken already). It would be unreasonable to think that we can keep all of our promises, all of the time. After all, life throws us curve balls, and good intentions get hindered by important happenings.

It can be disappointing and even hurtful when people break promises to us. When that product we order online fails to live up to what it promised. When that restaurant fails to live up to the coupon you have, because the ownership has changed. When your child fails to clean their room, as they had promised, before heading out to play. When your spouse promises to love and cherish you before your family and friends, and then trades you in for a new model.

In the broken world we live in, promises get broken.

The heartache, disillusionment, and disappointment that these broken promises cause can make our lives heavy, sad and lifeless. We are looking for, hoping for, heaven on earth. But there is only one heaven, and it is only in looking heavenward that we can know what it is to live with promises that are kept.

The other day I heard this song, and felt like it was God’s message to ME! Then I heard it the next day on the way TO work, on the way TO basketball, and then on the way TO home … tell me that message was not for me!

God keeps His promises, always. He is no fair weather friend. He is no deceiver. He is no liar. He keeps all of the promises that He makes … all the time … stick a needle in my eye.

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It is Christmas Break and I am taking this week as a break from blogging (my family is doubtful that I can do it).

So, if you are looking for something to read from me this week, I would suggest one of my favorite blog posts:

Because you Believe It

See you in the New Year!

Carole

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Another Friday, at the end of a long, tiring, work week. It was pure joy just to be finally able to say “it’s Friday.”

As it was Friday, there was chapel, so we all filled into the gymnasium to take our seats, record absences, and settle in for whatever was to follow. Today it was a video, called ‘The Butterfly Circus.’

The video starts out with epic music (by British born, Canadian resident, Timothy Williams), the sort of score that makes you heart leap and fall as it enters your senses. It is a beautiful score that makes you want to keep watching.

This short (twenty minutes) movie is set during the Great Depression, when the external circumstances of the lives of most people cause feelings of hopelessness. This movie is not about hopelessness, but of hope. The hope is unleashed by the Butterfly Circus, a circus that does entertainment differently, with no side shows of the unusual, un-normal, and untouchable. It is a circus that, like the metamorphosis of a caterpillar to a butterfly, is about the internal change to a state of beauty, hope and redemption.

The line in the movie, that stays with you when it is over, is said by the circus ringmaster, Mendez, “The greater the struggle the more glorious the triumph.” He says this to Will (Nick Vujicic), a man with no arms and no legs. For me, though, the most poignant line came just prior to it, when Mendez repeats the line Will’s previous ringmaster said that first introduced the two, “but you, cursed from birth. A man, if you can call him that, who God himself turned his back on.” Then Will yells back, “Stop it, why would you say that?” And Mendez responds, “because you, believe it.” And tears fell, with abandon, down my cheeks.

What lines do we hear in our heads? More specifically, what LIES do we hear in our heads? The things that we have heard all of our lives, and, we believe them. Things like:

“you are ugly”

“you are fat”

“you can’t …”

“you are stupid”

“you are hopeless”

These lines, these lies become self-fulfilling prophesies. They set the course for our lives. Not because they are said to us, but because we believe them. And because we believe them, we avoid resting in our cocoon, to await the oncoming transformative process that allows us to be re-born into the body, into the life that was always intended for us.

Let me share a few lines of TRUTH, to counter the lies:

“you are justified (made good)” (Romans 5:1)

“you are redeemed and forgiven” (Colossians 1:13-14)

“you have been healed” (1 Peter 2:25)

“you are chosen by God and precious to him” (1 Peter 2:5)

you are a royal priesthood” (1 Peter 2:9)

“you are God’s special possession” (1 Peter2:9)

“you are blameless before God” (Ephesians 1:4)

“you are free”  (Galatians 5:1)

And I say all this (truth) to you, hoping that you (and I) will believe it.

“So then, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation;

what is old has passed away–look,

what is new has come”

2 Corinthians 5:17

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