For a few years we lived in a city nearby, where seniors were a growth industry! No matter if you drove, shopped, went to the library, the coffee shop or the gym seniors were everywhere.
Most were friendly, some were grouchy, some couldn’t hear well, some couldn’t see well, some forgot to bath. It was a terrific community for our children to grow and learn in their preschool, and early elementary years. To go to town meant that they would be talked to, smiled at, and sometimes have a wrinkled hand touch theirs. As a family with grandparents on the other side of the country, this elder-world we called home was a welcomed and adored atmosphere.
Hubby is also a pastor, and so our kids have had the great benefit of being around people of a variety of ages within our church communities over the years.
I think all of us have had awkward moments and experiences with those who are older. Perhaps it was a visit to a care home full of unpleasant smells, odd noises and residents staring off into the distance. Or maybe it was the annual Christmas visits with that older relative who squeezed your cheeks, or referred to your legs as chubby, or who asked you the same question over and over again.
The other day I clicked on a link to an article that originated at Elder Helpers, which touched my heart. This article awakened within me the desire to remember that those whose age is doubled my own, were once my age … feeling similar things, facing similar struggles, giggling at the same silly things.
Enjoy this poem, and the story which is similar for many silver-haired ladies and gents.
“The context below is imaginary, the poem was written originally by Phyllis McCormack and adapted by Dave Griffith.
When an old man died in the geriatric ward of a nursing home in an Australian country town, it was believed that he had nothing left of any value.
Later, when the nurses were going through his meager possessions, They found this poem. Its quality and content so impressed the staff that copies were made and distributed to every nurse in the hospital.
One nurse took her copy to Melbourne. The old man’s sole bequest to posterity has since appeared in the Christmas editions of magazines around the country and appearing in mags for Mental Health. A slide presentation has also been made based on his simple, but eloquent, poem.And this old man, with nothing left to give to the world, is now the author of this ‘anonymous’ poem winging across the Internet.
Cranky Old Man
What do you see nurses?……. What do you see?
What are you thinking……. when you’re looking at me?
A cranky old man,……. not very wise,
Uncertain of habit……. with faraway eyes?
Who dribbles his food……. and makes no reply.
When you say in a loud voice……. ’I do wish you’d try!’
Who seems not to notice……. the things that you do.
And forever is losing……. A sock or shoe?
Who, resisting or not……. lets you do as you will,
With bathing and feeding……. The long day to fill?
Is that what you’re thinking?……. Is that what you see?
Then open your eyes, nurse……. you’re not looking at me.
I’ll tell you who I am……. as I sit here so still,
As I do at your bidding, ……. as I eat at your will.
I’m a small child of Ten……. with a father and mother,
Brothers and sisters……. who love one another
A young boy of Sixteen……. with wings on his feet
Dreaming that soon now……. a lover he’ll meet.
A groom soon at Twenty……. my heart gives a leap.
Remembering, the vows……. that I promised to keep.
At Twenty-Five, now……. I have young of my own.
Who need me to guide……. And a secure happy home.
A man of Thirty……. My young now grown fast,
Bound to each other……. With ties that should last.
At Forty, my young sons……. have grown and are gone,
But my woman is beside me……. to see I don’t mourn.
At Fifty, once more,……. Babies play ’round my knee,
Again, we know children……. My loved one and me.
Dark days are upon me……. My wife is now dead.
I look at the future……. I shudder with dread.
For my young are all rearing……. young of their own.
And I think of the years……. And the love that I’ve known.
I’m now an old man……. and nature is cruel.
It’s jest to make old age……. look like a fool.
The body, it crumbles……. grace and vigor, depart.
There is now a stone……. where I once had a heart.
But inside this old carcass……. A young man still dwells,
And now and again……. my battered heart swells
I remember the joys……. I remember the pain.
And I’m loving and living……. life over again.
I think of the years, all too few……. gone too fast.
And accept the stark fact……. that nothing can last.
So open your eyes, people……. open and see.
Not a cranky old man.
Look closer… see……. ME!!Remember this poem when you next meet an older person who you might brush aside without looking at the young soul within. We will all, one day, be there, too!The best and most beautiful things of this world can’t be seen or touched. They must be felt by the heart!”
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